How do we manipulate our children as parents

 Children are the most precious gift that we have we have experienced as human beings so we give our best and claim that they should be grateful to us for whatever we have done for them in their lives.

From day one that they are born till they grow up as human beings we invest in them and think we are giving our best self to them.

It’s a common saying that whenever children grownup to receive any achievement they go up on stage and say it’s because of their parents that they achieve this much in life.

However, on high sight when I reflect I also think how much we manipulate our own children in the name of giving and offering.

We want to feel superlative as human being and the only subject or people that we can receive this from is our children.

We manipulate them through emotional blackmailing conditions of love and different kind of inhibitions that we accept out of them.

By creating a community of parents and association we gain power and become super powerful and exercising our power over them.

Because we have the advantage in older the age we like to feel upper up over them in every which ways.

We create a dilemmas between our logical self and illogical sense and children often gets confuse which is the real one.

If we act in this manner children will only escape us and fool us with their pranks and misgiving.

But children are smarter than us if we think we have upper hand on them. These generation is 10 times more intelligent and smarter than we think.

So what is the right formula with parenting that often we struggle with?

We always feel there is a safe place to be in but never turns to be offer when do I belong.

It’s all about faith that we exclude in each other. How much do we shatter and how much do we live up.

India refer to be super human being and best eve in life they forget this little misgiving and false they end up occurring this day to day lives.

Author:-Dr. Nayana Shah (Ph.D.)

           Director, Manthan

             Ahmedabad  

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