What I do in Transactions: what do I Offer and what do I Receive?

 


Every human being is a transactional person. Transaction governs our day-to-day life, day-to-day relationships, day-to-day work, and day-to-day roles.

How do I define the quality of my transaction with the world? Transaction means giving and receiving in any context. At times the giver gives more and at times receiver receives more.

What really makes me happy is an exact balance of this or I also feel happy when on this scale I am the greater giver than the receiver.

There are people who are always in the mode of giving, helping, facilitating, and supporting others. It does not matter whether I am richer, more resourceful, or more equipped than the other person.

The giver does not operate only from the mind but also from a heart that bleeds and is a feeling person.

The receiver most of the time is somewhere lesser than the giver and which is acquiring things resources, knowledge, or any other feelings.

They also feel that they are weak and cannot really manage the inequality that exists.

If I were to reflect on my expectation of people I think I like to have a defined framework and boundaries which does not permit me to be carried away.

Therefore for me giving becomes much lesser easier than receiving. The receiving generally feels am I weak, am I soft, or is there a lack in me.

However, society creates a condition where everybody and everyone is not equal. It is important to process yourself and how does it make to feel like a giver and receiver both.

To give without expectation and accept the person the way he is will be a noble act in a relationship.

Can we accept people as they are without conditions to change or do something different?

Author:-Dr. Nayana Shah (Ph.D.)

           Director, Manthan

             Ahmedabad 



Comments

  1. Sudeshna bhojiaMarch 16, 2022 at 2:40 AM

    Fantastic take!
    Loved reading.

    We are an organization that thrives on support, help, funds, donations.
    Once when a study was conducted on 'the Art of giving: Exploring the motivation of Donors' with the donors (by volunteer), it was seen that a cross section of the donors feel grateful to the receiver and to the almighty for getting an opportunity to 'give'.

    So, while it is perceived that giving and receiving are not equal (truly so), yet it is the receiver who creates the 'giver'. So both are equally important.

    But yes, giving is empowering. Receiving may not be so.

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